spillybun:

acontentquarter:

randomslasher:

bettsplendens:

phoenixyfriend:

If I ask if a food is spicy at all, and you reply “No, not at all! You can barely feel it!” then that is a contradiction. It is spicy. It may not be very spicy, or even moderately spicy, but it’s still spicy. Please just tell me that straight-out.

I know there’s a good chance you’re mocking me in your head when I say that I cannot handle spices at all, and that even the mildest of sauces, that you insist are barely there, are going to hurt, because I’m mocking me too. I know I’ve got a child’s palate when it comes to spicy food. I know it’s almost laughable, how badly I react to even table pepper in more than the most minuscule of doses.

But if I ask “is this spicy,” and you answer “not at all,” and then proceed to tell me that it’s mild, then I will still consider it too spicy.

If I ask “is this spicy at all” and you say “no” while knowing that it is, just a tiny bit, because you can’t imagine anyone reacting, then please don’t be offended when I take one bite and then throw it out, because I asked for a reason.

It’s a dumb thing to talk about, but… yeah. Just do your cannot-handle-spices friends a favor and be honest when they ask. Mild is still a level of spice.

(This goes doubly for strangers, because if they have a digestive problem like, IDK, ulcers or something, then spicy food can irritate the stomach lining further and cause extreme pain. Some people claim that capsaicin can be used to treat ulcers, but you know… just play it safe, yeah?)

Let people be babies about spices! It doesn’t hurt you any. 

This is important. 

Food doesn’t taste the same to everyone. There are scientific reasons that some people might be able to tolerate ‘mild’ spice and others might not. If someone tells you they are sensitive to spice, that doesn’t mean they’re experiencing what you experience when you eat those foods. It means that for them, it feels far different. It hurts. 

My partner is super sensitive to spice. She calls herself a ‘spice wimp,’ which I hate, because there’s nothing wimpy about not wanting to suffer through horrible burning sensations in your mouth. Which is what she has to suffer, when someone tells her something “isn’t that spicy” when in fact it is. 

This isn’t about flexing.This isn’t about being tough. This is about acknowledging that the chemical and anatomical composition of someone else’s taste receptors is different than yours, and you need to be sensitive to that. 

I’ve learned to detect even the smallest amount of spice, so I can tell her if something is probably safe for her to eat or not. I’ve learned that the tiniest burning sensation to me means something is going to cause her physical pain. I’ve gotten better at identifying which foods will be okay and which will not. And you know what? I’m able to do it without being a dick about it. It has nothing to do with who’s’ tough and who’s a wimp and everything to do with the fact that her nerves process spice differently than mine do. 

She’s not a wimp, and she’s not a baby. She’s just someone whose DNA doesn’t let her eat spicy foods the way someone with my DNA can. That’s all. 

yes!! I feel really shitty about being unable to handle food spicier than kfc strips so I’d be grateful if people were mindful of that💞

Also someone might have sensory issues, and liking or disliking spice has nothing whatsoever to do with race 👍

luckytwodollarbill:

autoimmuneamy:

“Do you want to talk about it or be distracted from it” is honestly the best thing you can say to me when I say im sad/in pain etc.

this is really good advice to say to anyone who is upset

tselmc:

1. Trying to please everyone.

2. Fearing change.

3. Living in the past.

4. Overthinking.

5. Being afraid to be different.

6. Beating yourself up over mistakes.

7. Thinking you’re not good enough.

8. Thinking you have no purpose.

qvotable:

“I think about you. But I don’t say it anymore.”

— Marguerite Duras // Hiroshima Mon Amour

90svigilante:

fluffgawd:

Pls teach your son how to apologize.

Pls teach your daughter to not measure her strength by how much pain she can endure

jonrkennex:

merry christmas to everyone who didn’t get presents today because their family couldn’t afford it and merry christmas to everyone who couldn’t make it home for the holidays and merry christmas to everyone spending it alone i want you all to know that i hope you all have a great great end of the year and i love you all and even if your holidays weren’t how you pictured them i hope you still have a good rest of the holidays and year

babyfacerae:

I don’t fuck with people who enjoy embarrassing/humiliating other people just to look cool. That shit make you look weak and miserable to the people who can see through yo bitch ass

iplayydirtyy:

Find a soul that doesn’t lose appreciation once they are used to you.